User blog comment:DoctaMittens/Pawn Problems/@comment-26821092-20150731015021

Are you playing in online mode? If you are, resting at an inn (or anywhere, really) should prompt the "Accessing Server" window, which indicates that your game data is being transmitted, including your pawn. If you're in offline mode then the server has no way of knowing what level your pawn is currently.

Alternatively, the same problem could be on your friend's end. If he(she is playing in offline mode, their game only "knows" about your pawn from the last time it accessed the server. So if your pawn was level 47 the last time your friend played in online mode, that's how it will stay until the setting is changed.